There are so many things to care about. When it really matters, I care. When it does not, I let it slip off my emotional frying pan like a well-seasoned cast iron skillet.
Begin decreasing the conceptual emphasis on what you “need” to do and start increasing the actual doing of what you want to do. When you focus more on what you truly want and move away from the false obligations you have been persuaded to believe are necessary, you fulfil your life purpose and by extension make the world a better place. Find the balance of wants and needs. Respect the systems that are currently in place and find ways to transcend the constraints that are not beneficial.
Be in tune with true inspiration and what is really wanted, instead of acting on what you have been manipulated to pursue by outside influences that do not hold your best interest. Your deeper feelings provide guidance and silent time in contemplation can help with the tuning process.
I pledge to do my very best to uplift myself and others in every moment for the duration of this life and any others that follow. With the vast array of choices and opinions that exist, I pledge to continue learning and discerning what it means to live well, with an open mind and open heart. If I falter or forget I will come back and reread what I have written, to remember and reinvigorate my understanding of this pledge.
I will see it when I believe it.
It is true, death is the warrior’s best friend. Continue reading
“You shall now refer to me as _________” (fill in the blank).
The whole idea of undergoing a name change operation late in life seems ridiculous to me. I’d even call it a pet peeve. I can understand someone in their teens or younger, who really doesn’t identify with the name they were given, deciding to change it to something else. One of the guys I went to school with changed his name at least two times and back again and then to something new, I lost count. We haven’t been in contact for many years; he probably has changed his name again by now.
Once a person is past the teens and more settled into their life, a name change becomes silly and complicated. There are all the logistical headaches i.e. notifying acquaintances of the change, changing email addresses, updating bank accounts, passport, driver’s license and the rest of the legal rigamarole. My mom decided to change her name. That’s fine. It’s her decision, whether I think it is a good idea or not. Besides, I usually call her “mom” anyway.
In the grand scheme of things, in the vast universe, I could care less what sounds and letters other people use to refer to the minuscule lump of atoms / configuration of impermanent thoughts and energies that coalesce to form “me”. In essence I am much more than that and at the same time none of it.
The ever present now is constantly changing. The atoms in the body, the perspective of consciousness, the surroundings – are all changing faster than a millisecond and everything is completely new, even though it may seem to be the same and static. Technically, I am a new person every moment. Why not have a new name for each new moment?
So yeah, I started to think about it more. I started to look at it from a different perspective and shed off my pet peeve. Perhaps there is something to this name change business after all.
I started thinking about what I would want to be called if I were to do a name change. And, the first thing that popped into my head was… Continue reading
I truly believe that the source of all my problems is identifying with a sense of self. Whether I am identifying with my body or the thoughts that are flashing through my mind, believing that “this is me” and reacting in an ignorant way is the only thing that is problematic. Even when something happens outside of my body / mind that is “bad” (like if somebody stole my car) it is only the way my perceived sense of self is reacting to the occurrence that is uncomfortable. Perhaps the thief did me a favor and prevented me from getting in a car accident the next day.
This collection of thoughts and atoms that I think is me, is actually just a little piece of the entire reality.
And, it is not the self that is the problem. There are a lot of good things that come with being an individual. If I can experience the first person while maintaining a third person perspective, as if watching a movie, life is much more enjoyable. Sometimes it is a drama, sometimes a comedy, sometimes a romance, sometimes a thriller. It is all entertaining.
I believe that the only failure is not even trying.
If an attempt is made, regardless of the outcome, it is a successful learning experience. Those who succeed do not waste energy lamenting “failures”. They stay focused on what it is they want to achieve and make it happen with unbending intent.
The ultimate success is to live fully in the present moment, carrying out whatever activities bring inspiration without any attachment to the results.